Modern moms are all too often plagued by exhaustion, failure, isolation, self-doubt, and a general lack of self-love.

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Moms are amazing. Most of them do more things behind the scenes their children don’t even realize until they go on to have children. Even then, it’s hard to comprehend how a woman, a mother, can just keep going while simultaneously doing everything for everyone.

Some mothers even question how they do it all sometimes. Others may fall into a slump. A motherhood slump or mom burnout is very realAccording to psychologist and family counselor Dr. Sheryl Ziegler, modern moms are all too often plagued by exhaustion, failure, isolation, self-doubt, and a general lack of self-love.

11 Feeling Like An Inadequate Mother

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According to Jami Kirkbride, speaker, author, professional counselor, parenting coach, and personality trainer; there are many reasons that moms may feel inadequate. Some of those reasons are more common than others.

  • Pressure and expectations from society
  • Judgment from society
  • Social media’s portrayal of motherhood
  • Overwhelming amounts of activities
  • Financial worries
  • Comparing themselves and not “measuring up”

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10 Extreme Mental Fatigue


University Health Centers defines mental fatigue as a state of chronic exhaustion that can happen from ongoing stress. Mental fatigue may cause problems with a mother’s mood making her feel emotionally unstable. Mothers might also feel overwhelmed by their responsibilities and out of touch with their families and feelings.



More often than not, anger is a secondary emotion to a bigger, more underlying issue or emotion, says licensed clinical social worker Lena Suarez-Angelino. Mothers may have built up anger from holding too much in, or a form of repressed anger they didn’t realize was festering inside. Whatever the cause may be, it may present as snapping and yelling at her children over simple things.

Mom Guilt

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The term “mom guilt” refers to the unique feelings of guilt and anxiety that mothers experience in relation to their role as a mother and their ability to meet their children’s needs. Mothers are often the ones that society holds to higher standards; therefore, feelings of guilt and anxiety tend to be more common among women.

Regretting Having Children


Sage Journals used user-generated threads from Reddit as a data source to find out what parents most regretted about having children. The results of this study are as follows:

  • Timing: Thinking about having children earlier or later than when they did
  • Number: Wanting to have had more children or fewer children
  • Sacrifice: Wishing they did not have to give up so much of themselves to their children
  • Partner: Thinking they picked the wrong partner to parent a child with
  • External world: Wishing they had not had children due to the world being a dangerous place

Overly Anxious Thinking About The Future


Motherhood seems like never-ending tasks sometimes. Some mothers might get so overwhelmed by it that it causes a sense of panic and/or anxiety. This may affect her emotions and concentration. She may feel like she is in a constant state of fight or flight.

Overwhelming Sadness


Some mothers may feel down and in a low mood. They don’t have the ambition to do anything or even the desire to do anything. They withdraw and isolate themselves from those around them, including their children.

Emotionally Depleted


According to World Psychiatry, many mothers describe a feeling of incompetence when they are experiencing burnout. Mothers feel like they haven’t accomplished anything from daily tasks to life as a whole. Signs that a mother is becoming or is emotionally depleted may look like:

  • Increased isolation
  • Difficulty sleeping
  • Increased agitation and irritability
  • Increased headaches or body aches
  • Physical exhaustion
  • Forgetfulness
  • Difficulty concentrating or focusing
  • Decrease in productivity

Annoyed By Their Children


Some mothers can get to a point where they don’t want to spend time with their children. They feel like their entire life has been dedicated to giving them everything they need, and they want to start doing things for themselves again. Their children may seem needy and an annoyance to them.

Chronic Fatigue

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Mothers may be experiencing a slump, or burnout if they are always tired; no matter how much sleep they get.

When to Seek Professional Help


Mothers who feel like their depression is getting increasingly worse and have no belief that things will ever change may need to seek help from a professional. It’s normal to feel stressed during life transitions, but when a low mood or feelings of despair persist for more than two weeks, it may be time to reach out to a professional for help.

Mothers should try to pay attention to the way they are parenting. If moms feel like they may be violent or physically neglect their child, this requires immediate attention. No mother should feel like a failure for needing therapy. Dr. Marika Lindholm says, American moms suffer higher rates of depression, anxiety, exhaustion, and PTSD than the public. Mental health professionals can help.

Sources: Dr. Marika LindholmWorld PsychiatrySage JournalsLena Suarez-Angelino

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